I’ve just been reading a fascinating dialogue between Charles Gulotta at Mostly Bright Ideas (Better Left Unsaid, Part 1), and Priya at Partial View (Better Left Unsaid, Part 2). Go and read both posts, along with all the comments. It’s well worth it. I’ll wait.
Now that you’re back, here’s my two cents worth.
I was intrigued by the fact that both Priya and Charles seem to use the words “attraction” and “appreciation” interchangeably. I think there’s a fundamental difference between the two. Appreciation is window-shopping. It’s harmless, enjoyable, and free. Attraction is walking into the store to buy. Attraction can cost you big.
It doesn’t bother me a bit if my husband appreciates, or is attracted to, another woman, celebrity or otherwise. My husband and I are both geeks, so our minds work a little differently than the rest of the world.
Geeks believe that all issues can be resolved using a flowchart. Look below for my take on the whole “Better Left Unsaid” discussion, if you dare.
WARNING: Viewer discretion is advised. This flowchart reveals the horrifying inner workings of the geek mind. May cause warping, distension, or catastrophic failure of normal brains.