I recently followed a link on one of the blogs I read regularly. The blogger is normally a very funny guy. The link was to a site containing an extensive catalogue of sex acts (which was clearly stated in his post – no surprises there). I’m hoping the site was meant to be funny.
As a general rule, I can laugh at just about anything, including accidental flashers, farts in the car, and naked men dangling (snicker) outside my hotel window. I clicked through to the site knowing that it would contain adult content, and I fully expected that I’d find some things that were not, um, up my alley.
But a large percentage of the acts included punching and/or kicking a female partner, breaking bones, non-consensual acts (which we old-fashioned types still refer to as “rape”), and murder.
Yeah, really. Gang-rape her and chuck her in the dumpster when you’re done. Or smash her head against the wall until her brains smear all over it. Their words, not mine. “Bitch” and “whore” were the words of choice when referring to a female partner. And apparently one method of birth control is to smash her pelvis with a hammer. “By the time she’s finished at the hospital, she probably won’t get pregnant anyway.”
Some of the acts came with the endorsement, “This one’s really fun”. Like this one: Punch her in the eye and kick her in the shin hard enough to break it. Then she’ll look like a pirate with an eye patch and a peg-leg.
Wait, why am I not laughing?
I didn’t read the entire site. Maybe it got funnier. Or maybe I took a wrong turn somewhere and missed the humour.
I didn’t know how to react. I expected ripe language and adult content. But for me, this site stepped over the line. Hell, who am I kidding? This site launched itself so far over the line, it achieved low-earth orbit.
I went back to the blog again and read the comments, wondering if anyone had reacted negatively. No. Comments from both male and female readers, none of whom apparently had any problem with the link.
I don’t know what to do.
I know that my blog may offend some people. I can be pretty vulgar. I assume that people who don’t like my style will simply go away and never come back. Nobody’s forcing them to read this.
So now that I find myself offended by a site, is it “my fault” for reading it? It is hypocritical to comment on his blog about it? Should I just shut up and go away?
Or should I go whole-hog and report the site as hate-mongering and inciting criminal acts of violence against women? I’m sure the site owner(s) would insist it’s meant to be funny and I’m clearly some tight-assed do-gooder who can’t take a joke. Free speech and all. But where do you draw the line?
What would you do?